13:05. It’s been hours, but I’m still disturbed by what happened while I was walking to work. I never pay attention to people that greet me while I’m on the street. By “people” I mean “men”, because they are the ones who make it difficult for me to be out in public. So they mightContinue reading “The Power of Suggestion”
Category Archives: Unstructured Musing
Insecure means so much to me
I love Insecure. I remember thinking “Yes, it’s finally happening!” when I heard that Issa Rae was going to have her own show on TV. That’s what everyone in the comments section of The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl wanted for her, and while I can’t give you the direct quote, I believe Issa wroteContinue reading “Insecure means so much to me”
Nine to Five
In March of this year, after sending out numerous cover letters and various versions of my CV, going in for several interviews and worrying every day about whether I would become part of that dreaded statistic – the unemployed graduate – I finally got offered a job. I was so happy that one of myContinue reading “Nine to Five”
Another tough week for young black women
Last Friday, while I was walking home from work, a man stopped me to ask where he could catch a taxi to town. I stopped briefly to answer him, and for those ten seconds I was bracing myself for something bad to happen. I held on to my bag so I could have it closeContinue reading “Another tough week for young black women”
Rompers for men made quite a stir on social media last week
Last week Tuesday, ELLE South Africa tweeted a link to an article about what would be the week’s favourite fashion fad: the RompHim. Upon reading about this new fashion item, designed by bros, for bros, I was once again struck by how fragile masculinity is. That you would need to call a garment that alreadyContinue reading “Rompers for men made quite a stir on social media last week”
"It’s Just a Little Crush" – Jennifer Rush
Recently, while I was sitting at my desk checking my social media on company time (what a rush!), I found myself getting lost in the Instagram archives of a young South African actress. As I went further and further into the history, I felt myself growing more and more interested in her. Her tattoos, herContinue reading “"It’s Just a Little Crush" – Jennifer Rush”
I want you here, but really I don’t want anyone here at all. You know?
9 April 2017: Yesterday afternoon I was in bed, watching series on my laptop, drifting in and out of a nap. “Wow,” I thought, “sleeping in on a Saturday is so nice.” Then I thought “It would be so much better if there was someone here with me…” I’ve seen several tweets about “craving cuddles”Continue reading “I want you here, but really I don’t want anyone here at all. You know?”
"What are your deal breakers?"
Someone asked me what my deal breakers were when it comes to relationships, and I didn’t know how to answer. I quickly said something about how you can never be sure what you don’t want, and so I can only say I wouldn’t want to deal with whatever type of person I didn’t get alongContinue reading “"What are your deal breakers?"”
I don’t know how to decorate my flat (Part 1 of MANY)
I’m experimenting with short (or long, we’ll see) pieces about what it’s like living alone and trying to figure out how to decorate and where to shop and how to burn scented candles and how to keep your kitchen clean. I don’t know yet what I want to do in terms of hanging art orContinue reading “I don’t know how to decorate my flat (Part 1 of MANY)”
[Recap]: Films I Liked at the Joburg Film Festival 2016
The Wedding Party In The Wedding Party, Kemi Adetiba has produced a film which captures the joy and chaos of a big Nigerian wedding beautifully. Amid the drama of snobbish in-laws, stubborn exes, bumbling groomsmen, a tightly wound wedding planner and a selection of uninvited guests, Dunni (Adesua Etomi) and Dozie (Olubankole “Banky W” Wellington)Continue reading “[Recap]: Films I Liked at the Joburg Film Festival 2016”
Nkhensani Manabe 